Girlfriends- Are We Letting Friendships Fall Into A Routine?

Feeling a little under the weather this week, I took a day off from work and did nothing but rest. I worked on Christmas cards while I sipped hot tea with the hopes it would relieve my sore throat. After watching about 4 court shows, the news 2 or 3 times and enough Community College commercials to make me crazy, I remembered that I bought the first SATC movie on Black Friday. Enough time has passed to forget all of the little details, so I popped it in, snuggled in my robe and enjoyed every second of it.

Certain things stuck out the 3rd time around. Mainly fashion related things that made me want to get out and face the cold in my not so healthy state and go shopping. The outfits, designer “name dropping”, and witty jokes I appreciated the first time around. (Charlotte and the pudding, anyone?)

But what really jumped out at me this time, is the obvious: Girlfriends. Maybe it was a little too much Dayquil, but for some reason this time it hit close to home. 

The older I get (I’m 26) the more I realize the changes in the dynamics of the relationships with my girlfriends.  Naturally, with age and time our lives drastically change and as a result, so do our relationships. We move, we have kids, priorities, deadlines, real jobs, husbands, partners, bills, lay offs, lazy days, busy days… 

I find myself accepting it as the norm to get together with girlfriends every few weeks or so, and catch up with emails and Facebook. With a few friends, we have once a month dates. I look forward to them, but is this really the norm? 
Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the technological advances and I find it remarkable my friend and I can make elaborate plans without even hearing the other’s voice, but I remember chatting with girlfriends on the phone every day.

My situation is a little different though, and I consider myself to be very lucky.  I am the youngest of 3 girls and because of this, I find that my sisters are indeed my girlfriends. Over time, when relationships with girlfriends seem to fall into a routine, it’s my sister that I call when our favorite store is having a sale, and my other sister I vent to about a bad day. 

I appreciate my sisters more than anyone would ever know- I would be a sad case without them-but does the comfort in having close sisters sometimes deter you from maintaining strong relationships with other females? 

Young and awkward. 
I will love and cherish this friendship forever.
 She’s thousands of miles away and we email about once a month.

I guess I’ve been wondering is it acceptable to let our friendships with girlfriends succumb to the madness that our lives have become and accept the fact that things naturally can’t be the way they used to be 5-10 years ago? 

 Or should we try whatever we can to make them as lively and exciting as they used to be? 

Or maybe I’m just a sucker for feel good friendship shows {cue The Golden Girls and Girlfriends.}

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